If you notice that things may be a little quiet on the post front this week it’s because I’m in full-on bridesmaid mode. It’s my fourth time so I am no means a bridesmaid virgin and know exactly what my duties are, but this time it’s a little different because it’s for my sister. The first of the Harris sister’s to get wed and it’s a little…tense to say the least! For anyone that’s been a bridesmaid, you know that it’s a great experience, a real honour…and often a royal pain in the arse! But to stay sane and keep on grinning, I’ve discovered a few tricks of the trade to keep sane.
1.THE BRIDE IS ALWAYS RIGHT…ALWAYS
I’m sure everyone has a bridezilla horror story where they 100% were not right but to keep things running smoothly and for the sake of your friendship/relationship – always agree with her. “I love it!” are the only three words you ever need to say.
2. PHONE, DON’T TEXT
Ok, this might not always be practical but 80% of the time, a lot can get lost in translation through text. Weddings are ultra emotional and brides are generally quite over-sensitive at this time so don’t run the risk of her reading into no kisses on a text when you were just going into a meeting.
3. MAKE FRIENDS
Everyone from the groomsmen to the reverend is an allie. Whether it’s kids running down the aisle or an aunt that’s had a bit too much breakfast champagne, they can navigate a multitude of sins (no pun intended!)
4. THINK ABOUT YOURSELF
You read that right. Although the day is completely not about you, don’t be swallowed up in duties that you end up saying “do whatever you want” to the hairdresser on the day and feeling upset and unconfident the rest of the day – you won’t be at your best. Make sure you keep trying on your dress – you may not love it but there’s nothing more stressful to the bride than maid wardrobe malfunctions.
5. …BUT NOT TOO MUCH
This day isn’t even a little bit about you, so if you’re worried about bumping into your ex or can’t stand the ushers, keep it to yourself.
6. EASY ON THE CHAMPERS
Yep, it will indeed help you get through the day but a sloppy drunk in a dress is not elegant or helpful to anyone – don’t be a hindrance.
7. HAVE FUN
After all that remember to have a great time and reap the rewards of your hard work. No one likes a drill sergent so try to relax a little.