In between moaning about the heatwave and admiring our golden limbs, summer limped away and gave way to chilly mornings and darker evenings. And my god do we feel guilty about wishing it away. Well, I do as I sit with a blanket draped around my shoulders and my bare feet turn blue. Of course, I’m not dressed appropriately at all as I desperately sit in hope of a summer encore but it may be time to throw in the towel, or in my case, an Amara throw, and admit that autumn is just around the corner.
I find myself in a weird mood most days as I drastically consider re-locating to warmer climes and convince Toff that LA is a practical choice and secretly looking forward to scented candles, lit fires and spiced lattes. We can hardly complain, we’ve had a summer like no other and, apart from the unrelenting infestation of flies, it’s been the best summer ever. Apart from our wedding in Italy, we haven’t been anywhere. We’ve stayed home, settled into married life and had one of the most simplest seasons ever, but it’s been strangely cathartic.
So as we embrace a new season of Netflix box sets and arguments over the heating, I’ve been reflecting on one of the most important three months of my life and what I’ve learned.
1. I’m surrounded by amazing people
If there was one thing that made me tear up a thousand times on our wedding day it was looking at the incredible friends and family we have around us. Toff and I have had an complicated relationship where we’ve had to help each other through unusual circumstances and the support of our loved ones, even people we haven’t known that long, has been overwhelming. I didn’t know that friendships like that existed and I’ve never felt more grateful.
2. No matter what, carry on
Shit happens. It’s a fact and it’s what makes life the wonderful adventure that it is. But we are the most adaptable race and once we accept and get over the surprise of those curveballs, we can knock them out of the park.
3, There’s nothing you can’t handle
4. Know when to switch off
August is a bit of a dead month and while I’ve been pulling my hair out at the out of office replies and metaphorical tumbleweed across my Instagram feed, I’ve learnt to just go with it and use this time to disconnect. I’ve read, had proper conversations and gone for walks – it’s been so lovely and it’s made me realise I want to try and do this more often.
5. Enjoy the little moments
One regret I had from my wedding was not savouring those little things happening all around. The last minute nature of our venue cancelling meant I never had that come down moment where everything’s supposed to wash over you and you feel a sense of calm. Nope, that never came! But stopping and having a look around is important.
6. Let go of expectations
On yourself, from other people and on other people. You will always be disappointed.
7. Celebrate success
Something I’m forever trying to work on. For every campaign or collaboration I get asked to work on, an amazing blog traffic day or glossy magazine commission I get sent, I briefly get excited and then bemoan the things I didn’t get. Must stop.
8. There’s an undeniable smugness of eating from the garden
9. Get to know your neighbours
They’ll have your back. Seriously.
10. There’s a magic to laying in bed with the curtains and window open and looking at the sky
11. Be patient
With yourself, with success, with those around you.
12. Don’t take it all so personally
13. Good skincare is the best investment you can make
14. Listen to your body
I’ve definitely been doing more of this lately. The stress of spring combined with high intensity workouts nearly pushed me to the edge. This summer I’ve exercised less, slept more, relaxed my diet a little and healed.
15. Have ambition but don’t let it unravel you
16. Comparison is a waste of energy
There’s a journalist I absolutely love. She has my dream career and I spent so much time obsessing over her success and feeling rubbish about my own. A month or so later I listened to a podcast hosted by her and she was incredibly candid about suffering from an eating disorder, desperately looking for love and crediting said success on a lot of luck. Everyone has their own ‘stuff’ and as perfect as it looks, you never know what goes on behind closed doors.
17. Choose simple and choose well
My new fashion mantra when it comes to shopping. I’m in it for the long haul.
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