Yesterday was one of those perfect Sundays. The kind where you have no plans (VERY rare for us), wake up late, dare to have two cups of tea before midday, catch up on the papers and just see where the day takes you. I’m not the sort of person that does this very often, and frankly, it makes me feel kind of uncomfortable. I’m a do-er, a work-a-holic and frantic planner. Sitting and doing nothing, to me, feels like a waste of time. I KNOW this is completely unhealthy and slowing down is a working progress. Disconnecting is something I’m not very good at. At all. Blogging and all the social channels that go with it require a lot of attention and if I’m not careful I can spend the entire day in front of a screen.
How many of you can relate to that? I thought so. It’s a safe assumption because we are all busy. So unbelievably busy.
“I’m starting to learn that maybe disconnecting and leaning into what your body actually needs is the way forward. Listen to what it’s trying to say.”
Over the last few months I’ve spent 90% of my time working. From 9-5pm in my day job to evenings and weekends blogging, wedding planning and house renovating. Disconnecting has not been an option. The to-do list isn’t going down and I find myself going to bed annoyed and frustrated with how slowly it’s all going. It’s funny because all day I write about self love and not being so hard on yourself, when in reality I’m the complete opposite.
But this week has been very different. I’ve started to feel so run down and exhausted that I’m sleeping after work, after dinner, at bed time and, if I could, at lunch! My glands are swollen and I can feel something lurking on the horizon. My instant reaction is to push through it but I’m starting to learn that maybe disconnecting and leaning into what your body actually needs is the way forward. Listen to what it’s trying to say.
Because what’s the alternative?
We’re very lucky that we don’t live in a big crowded city or town anymore. It was so much fun when I and we did but we’ve come home and bought a beautiful house in the countryside, so when we do disconnect there’s no better place to be. With nothing but open fields, village deli’s and lots of birdsong, it makes me feel guilty that I don’t get my head out of my screen and appreciate it all a bit more.
August is notoriously quiet in my industry – emails have slowed and OOO’s are the only replies in my inbox as everyone signs off and recharges their batteries. So why aren’t we all disconnecting too? We’re 8 months into the year (where did that go?!) and there’s no better time to stop, get early nights, nourish our body, take stock of the year and rest. Think. Imagine. Dream. The to-do list will still be there and it can be done in small, manageable chunks. It’s OK, we’re not perfect, we can’t have all our shit together all the time, we need to live at the same time. Is ‘have fun and live in the moment’ on your to-do list? Because its not on mine but it should be.
So, in the interest of disconnecting, I’ve decided to not stress when I’m behind on work or if I don’t have next week’s post sorted. I will do what I can, when I can and that will be good enough. I’m going to rest, recuperate, be inspired and get motivated for the new season.
Watch this space….
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
Do you find it hard to disconnect? Maybe you have some tips on how to relax and recoup? Or perhaps you have the balance nailed, in which case – tell me how! I’d love to know!