Changing your mindset is no mean feat. As adults, we have decades of bad habits forming behind us that we’re practically masters of being set in our ways, no matter how small. But if there’s one thing I can take from an incredibly stressful few months it’s that I’ve learnt a lot about myself and what I want moving forward. In short – positive vibes only.
After experiencing extreme stress (you can read about it here), I made a conscious decision on our honeymoon to make some everyday changes that would re-focus my mind, banish negativity and generally just be nicer to myself! I’m in such a happy and exciting time in my life, and yet I was constantly thinking of the next thing, moving at 100mph without being present in that moment and enjoying it. So I’ve decided to try and adopt a more positive outlook – to relax more, love more, switch off and filter out what’s important and what’s not.
Without much thought we moan about so much on a daily basis – the weather, the traffic, Brexit, you name it, without stepping back and considering whether you’re going to let that thought ruin your day. It’s a choice we have and only we can control that decision. Changing habits is never easy but by pausing every now and again and thinking about how I want something to affect me I’ve seen such a difference. By shrugging off the little things that I’d usually lose my shit over, I’m more laid-back, content and relaxed.
If you’re struggling with the same frustrations, I hope these little tips will help calm your mind and adopt more positive vibes in your day.
HOW TO ADD POSITIVE VIBES TO YOUR DAY
SET GOOD INTENTIONS
I’ve always been mindful of healthy eating and taking care of my body but since we moved back into the house and the stress of the wedding has gone, I’ve made this a priority but adopting a routine that sets me up for the day. It goes something like this…
6.30-7am I get up and have a mug of warm water and lemon to kick start my digestion, followed by a cup of builders tea for a caffeine hit.
7.30 am I check emails that have come in overnight, glance over my to-do list for the day and head to my yoga mat for 45 minutes of stretching and strength work.
9 am At my desk to start work. Every hour I take 5 minutes to do some mindfulness which is usually stepping outside to do a few deep breaths and listen to what’s around me.
5 pm Start winding down work and either go for a run outside or a yoga video on YouTube
7 pm Dinner is usually fish with lots of veggies and pulses
8 pm Wash up and finish up any little work bits.
10 pm Read in bed for an hour
TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF
I don’t know about you but I’m so over feeling the pressure to be everything all at once and look like a supermodel while we simultaneously boss our career, send the best birthday gifts and be the best S.O while cooking dinner and making time for our loved ones. So don’t. Seriously, this was an epiphany moment on my honeymoon when I was spending chunks of my day replying to messages, kicking myself for forgetting that friend’s first day at a new job and buying thank you cards from the beach. From. The. BEACH. It dawned on me that I’m missing out on the present so enough. We do what we can while we can and some things we just can’t change so there’s no point stressing about it. Cut yourself some slack and just enjoy the ride. Remember – positive vibes.
LOVE WHAT YOU HAVE
Here’s a fun little exercise for you – tomorrow, keep an eye on how many times you moan/compare/talk negatively, either out loud or in your head. I bet it will be a lot more than you think it is. From traffic jams and Instagram envy to that undecorated room and old season wardrobe. Now, I’m not saying we should all adopt a Walton-style outlook on life, lets be realistic. But let’s also be aware of how we talk to ourselves.
When I became more mindful of my thoughts and negative attitude I couldn’t believe what a total moaner I was! And while it’s all well and good noticing this in ourselves, it’s hard to change when it surrounds you in other people, which is why Toff and I are both making a more conscious effort to dial down the negative for more positive vibes. In a world where we’re oversaturated with possibilities it’s so common to want more, more, more but it’s so effective to just stop and think about what we already have at this very moment. We only show our best bits on social media so don’t be so quick to assume someone’s got a better life than you.