30 THINGS I’VE LEARNED TURNING 30

Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30

Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30

Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30



I’ve always loved my birthday. I know that sounds like an odd thing to say but not everyone does. Some don’t like the realisation that they’re another year older, maybe they haven’t achieved what they wanted to by that age and that day is just a 24hour reminder of that. But I find that every year I get older, each birthday is more important than the last. Not only because I think that getting older is a privilege stolen from many, but also because we change so much over 12 months. On Saturday I will be turning 30. It’s such a strange notion because when I was younger, I always viewed 30 as being completely different to how I feel.

When I was 9 or 10, my best friend at the time aways said that when we were 30 we’d be fashion designers and I always thought I’d drive a BMW convertible! It felt like such a grown-up age where you have everything figured out, money in the bank and a dream career bagged. HA! That innocent dreaming is something we should all hang on to with eternal optimism because it’s not all over just because “I’m not in my twenties anymore”. I don’t feel 30, I’m doing my best to not look 30 (!) and the next year is going to hand me the biggest changes of my life. That doesn’t seem half bad.

Turning 30 is something of a relief. I was having dinner with 5 of my girlfriends last week who range from 25-32 in age. Every one of them agreed that your twenties are the most traumatic, painful, exciting and difficult years. We’d take teenage angst any day! They’re the years you change dramatically, have an identity crisis (or two), make catastrophic mistakes, and maybe make them twice. You change your mind constantly and compare yourself to your peers without hesitation. I wrote about things I learnt from my twenties here and wanted to do an update as it’s such a big one. So, with a few days of my twenties left, I thought I’d reflect on 30 things I’ve learnt about turning 30.



Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30

Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30

 

  1. YOU FIND YOUR SQUAD

    Real got-your-back, zero judgement, talk about anything friends. I’ve learnt not to hang on to friendships just because of shared history. Just like relationships, you grow apart and it’s fine. You’ll find your people. I’ve made so many new friends this last year and they’re now like family.

  2. YOU KNOW YOURSELF

    I look back on the last 10 years and I barely recognise the person I was when I was 21-25 years old. Turning 30, I know my limits, my own thoughts and am not afraid to say when somethings up.

  3. YOU CALL BS ON MORE

    From pitching yourself against others to being a doormat at work or at home. The older you get the more you recognise the bullshit and don’t take it. Which leads on to…

  4. YOU LET GO OF THE FEAR

    There comes a point where you become bored of feeling the fear. In my twenties I was worried ALL the time. About speaking up at work, telling a friend to back off or breaking up with someone that wasn’t right. You realise, at 30 that it’ll all work out regardless.

  5. YOU APPRECIATE GREAT WINE

  6. AND GIN

  7. YOU’LL NEVER REGRET MAKING MEMORIES OVER MONEY

    You can’t take it with you and you’ll never wish you didn’t buy those flights

    Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30

    Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30

  8. YOU LOVE YOUR FAMILY HARDER

    As Baz Luhrmann says “be nice to your siblings – they are the best link to your past.” This also goes for your grandparents. Get to know them if they’re still around.

  9. YOU’RE OK THAT A NIGHT IN WITH STRICTLY IS YOUR IDEAL SATURDAY NIGHT

  10. YOU HOPE THAT BEING TERRIFIED OF HAVING CHILDREN WILL PASS

    Yep, “one day” is still my answer

  11. AND IF YOU DON’T WANT THEM THAT’S MORE THAN FINE

    I know that I would like them but equally I love my life as it is. A lot of my friends don’t want children and the stigma of that still shocks me. It’s a life choice and if you don’t want them, you don’t have to feel bad about that. Don’t feel bad about that.

  12. YOU’RE BRAVER THAN YOU THINK

    Your twenties are full of security blankets – friends, work, loved ones. Turning 30 makes you re-evaluate all of that and if there’s any independence to be had.

    Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30  Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30  Blogger Jessica Harris has learned turning 30

  13. YOU DISCOVER GREAT MUSIC

    Don’t get me wrong, I still love a bit of Kisstory to re-live my youth on a Friday driving home. But it’s all about amazing lyrics, a beat to tap my foot to instead of the bass.

  14. COOKING A SUNDAY ROAST IS A PROUD MOMENT

  15. WEAR SPF 50 ON YOUR FACE. WITHOUT FAIL

    A short-term tan is not worth the long-term wrinkles

  16. SOMETIMES YOU ARE THE PARENT AND YOUR PARENT IS THE CHILD!

  17. YOU BECOME A LOT MORE SELECTIVE IN YOUR STYLE

    Read all about investing in fashion HERE

  18. YOU REALLY REALLY APPRECIATE CARBS

    The right ones are not the enemy people!

  19. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR METABOLISM HITS A ROUGH PATCH

    Yep, can’t ride that genetic wave forever, but you can hike it up with exercise

  20. YOU’RE STILL NOT THAT GREAT WITH MONEY

    Expensive nights out are replaced with expensive furniture and broken boilers (grr). Nothing costs less than £100 anymore and you don’t have much to show for it. Yet.

  21. YOU STILL FEEL LIKE YOU’RE PLAYING THE BIG GAME

    This is something my sisters are going to kill me for. When we were kids we would play The Big Game where we would make believe that we were adults and various scenerios (usually influenced by Neighbours or Home & Away) would ensue. Life still feels a bit like we’re playing house. Especially when I bought my first house, I still can’t believe someone gave me a mortgage!

  22. YOU UNDERSTAND THAT RESPECT AND COMPROMISE IS THE BASIS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    When the honeymoon period turns into something deep and different, it’s no bad thing. You discover friendship, support and a love that goes beyond kissing for hours.

  23. YOU DISCOVER PATIENCE

    This is something I’m still exploring but turning 30 has made me sit back and take stock more rather than be so reactionary.

  24. YOU DON’T EVER WANT TO STOP TRYING

    I’ve always said I’d rather be the person that tries and fails than the one that doesn’t try at all.

  25. YOU’LL STILL MAKE MISTAKES

    But they’re measured mistakes rather than silly selfish ones and you learn from them every time.

  26. YOU DON’T TOLERATE THE DRAMA

    We never know what life will throw at us but you have the ability to dampen down the drama and opt out if you want to.

  27. YOU HAVE TO MAKE MORE EFFORT

    We’re all so busy, life happens, weeks fly by, we know this. But without that extra effort – a phone call, text, quick meet up over coffee, before you know it you’ve lost people from your life.

  28. YOU START TO CHECK YOUR S***

    I firmly believe that everyone should have therapy. Whether you’ve had something traumatic happen to you or not, there’s no way we can stumble through this crazy life without an impartial professional to lend an ear. You’ll learn so much about yourself you didn’t even realise.

  29. YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON

    Letting go of the past is hard. But we can’t change it so we may as well accept it and forget it.

  30. YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT

    Now’s your time.


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